I have this wonderful friend whose blog idea I am copying. All too many of my thoughts have gone unspoken... I think the beginner of this little outlet is brilliant.
Rules
1. List some things you want to say to 20 different people.
2. Don’t say who they are.
3. Feel free to comment, but don’t confirm or answer anything.
4. Never discuss it again.
5. This is in no particular order at all
1- Everyone is insecure! Your insecurities only control you because you are that "self-conscious" which is the sugar coat for "self-centered". See past yourself so you can be happy for others and appreciate your own blessings.
2- It's your love that is conditional- not your families. You are the one who continually hurts them by making poor choices.
3- The way you've changed makes me cry. It's humbling to see God be so big.
4- It would mean the world to me if you could talk to me about your struggles. You're the only person I had ever been jealous of in my adolescence. You'll never hear that from me.
5- You have no idea what an awesome stage of life you're in. I wish you could enjoy it rather than hoping to be in a different stage of life. I genuinely think you are an amazing woman with so much to offer. You'll never hear that from me either.
6- The joy of the Lord... (sarcastically) You are the grumpiest person I have ever seen... and I have to see you every Sunday.
7- I have to filter most of what you say because I know you exaggerate.
8- I can't believe you lied about that. You could have saved his life and even your marriage if you had just been completely honest when asking for help.
9- You are one of my most selfish friends. It doesn't bother me because it doesn't effect me... but I feel sorry for your family sometimes.
10- It isn't God punishing you. It's cause and effect. Thinking God is punishing you is a convenient way to avoid responsibility for your actions.
11- Hearing about your "partner" doesn't offend me. But it certainly does not interest me either.
12- You should have been light in the darkness, not just an embrace. Imagine what an impact it could have had.
13- You are one of the most uncomfortable people to be around. I usually don't have a problem being myself around people... but you seem to think you are perfect and it makes me want to burst into laughter, slouch, wear sweat pants, and mess up my hair.
14- I wish you would trust my love.
15- Your relationship with Karen is totally unhealthy, inappropriate, and disrespectful to your wife.
16- I feel the most understood, listened to, and encouraged by you. I also feel like I understand you better than I understand any of my other friends. You are irreplaceable for this reason.
17- I see your relationship now, and can tell your marriage will be very similar to mine. For this reason, I keep my mouth shut but my ears open wide. I am preparing myself to prepare you for marriage when you get engaged next month... hehe. You don't even know its coming!
18- You and your husband amaze me. I admire your marriage... however, I can't seem to dig beneath the surface of our friendship. I'll keep trying, but I fear I'll have to accept that this is the way you like it.
19- I'm sorry...
20- You have no one to blame but yourself.
That was harder than I thought it would be. Perhaps I don't hold back as much as I thought I did.
2 comments:
I had a really hard time when I did this too. I opened up the flood gates, I think. Your statements were so powerful and sincere though. Liz and I both agreed that doing ours before bed might not have been the best thing!
Thank you for the sweet comment on facebook. You are so right - there are just days like that.
Nicely done... I want to do this - one day.
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