On Intentions

"...sometimes the best intentions are in need of redemption; would you agree?"

~Death Cab, You Are A Tourist

I think I'm a difficult person to argue with because I don't really care about who is right or who is wrong. And I, most certainly, don't want to hear all about what a person didn't mean to do or say. I get completely hung up on understanding. I want the other to understand why what they said hurt me or struck a certain chord in me. And I want to understand what the other did mean rather than what they didn't. Something I'll never understand is why a person's initial response to another is "I didn't mean to." 

Of course you didn't mean to. If I thought you meant to hurt me, I probably wouldn't be talking to you right now. I'd probably not consider you a friend. You probably wouldn't have the power to hurt me because I wouldn't care enough about what comes out of your mouth. 

I sound rude.

It's just that... what one means to happen and what happens are not always the same thing. What actually happens creates much more wake than what is intended to happen. We are always left to pick up the pieces of actual happenings rather than intentions. It's the same concepts as actions speaking louder than words. 

Either way, I just wish that everyone understood that sometimes the best intentions are still in need of redemption.... and this is how we can know each other better.